Next Sunday, Joey will graduate from Brown University. In celebration, I want to share my favorite moments, pictures, and blog posts. The post below, Will He Ever?, offers the questions we as parents of autistic children ask ourselves at one time or another.
I learned early on to put my energies in finding the answers rather than spending time asking them. My attitude, strength, knowledge and capabilities as a parent played just as an important role as did Joey’s perseverance.
I learned early on that if I changed the way I looked at things, the things I looked at changed.
Will He Ever?
Parked outside of Joey’s dorm room waiting to pick him up for spring break, I thought back to all the “will evers” I used to ask:
- Will Joey ever babble?
- Will Joey ever talk?
- Will Joey ever eat more than the three foods he eats now?
- Will Joey ever step out of his routine?
- Will the melt-downs ever stop?
- Will Joey ever have friends?
- Will Joey ever graduate from high school?
- Will Joey ever go to college?
Startled by the knock on the window, I jumped out of the car and hugged Joey. I helped him load two months worth of laundry into the back. We got in the car, Joey chatting away about his last six weeks at Brown when I realized I forgot what street to go down next.
“Will you ever find your way home mom?” Joey laughed as he gave me directions.
I smiled to myself, and thought—I have.